Dear Friends,
Following up on my earlier post about surviving grief as an “act of will” – here is what one of my grief group members said. ”People assume that coping with grief is like losing weight – eat less, exercise more, and you will lose weight.”
Translated into grief terms, this means “Get a life”, “Put on a nice dress and go to a bar to meet another man”, “Just have another child”, “Get a volunteer job so that you can move on”, “Think of all the good things in your life and you will feel better” “Death is just a part of life – so what are you so down about?” Sounds familiar?
Here it is what the rest of the world does not understand – grief controls us, we do not control it. What we can do, however, is to learn to manage the grief. By developing our personal coping skills. We may have them already but may be unaware of them.
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Dr. Weide
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