Recently, I spoke with an acquaintance, interested in better understanding grief, about communication between those who have been there and those who have not. Since I do not like many of the “grief concepts” and the related advice out there – many of us cringe when we hear it, no matter how well-meaning it may have been – I tried to explain that I do not like the concept of “acceptance.” Yes, I can hear your thoughts!
This person said, “How can you ever move on without acceptance?” To which I responded, “I prefer to phrase it in this fashion: yes, confronting reality to be able to look towards the future.” This was met with a bland stare. And the colleague then concluded that it “was all a matter of definiton.”
What are your thoughts? Please let us know!! To me, at least, it seems that the same words take on a different meaning, depending whether you have been there or not. And “acceptance”? What do you think?
What is some of the “language” you are wondering about?
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Kindly,
Dr. Ursula Weide
